The untimely death of someone very close to me due to alcohol abuse sent a few alarm bells ringing inside my head. Indulgence is a word that has become so synonymous with humanity, it should probably be added as the eighth sin. We have lost our balance of everything, be it with Mother Nature or with our lives itself. That’s why people are becoming obese and aneroxic, porn and drug addicts, we are just wildly swinging into one extremity or the other. It is just amazing to observe how skewed people’s lives are now and the random things we tend to do. What about finding the balance and living a good life?
Question is, what is a good life and who decides it? A good life is just like pure black and pure white. Doesn’t exist. Everything exists in shades of grey. Similarly, a good life can have different meanings for everyone. People say, what’s the point anyways, we will all die and go some day. So better live life as we want. Perfectly fine. But when we say that, we forget one crucial aspect. There is very little we have control over in our own lives. Mother Nature has her own rules, our body works in its own mysterious ways, society has its diktats and when we consider all the constraints that are upon us, the question is not who we are but what are we. What I find ironic is, we talk about goals and achievements, fortune and fame and in our mad rush for glory, we choose to stay oblivious of all the constraints that hold us back. That is why one stroke of death leaves us all in silence and numbness because nothing about us and what did and achieved matters anymore. All our fame and glory stays within the realm of humanity and only humans remember us that too for a while. Life moves on whether we are alive or dead. We talk about afterlife, heaven and hell, but we do not know what lies beyond the realm we live in. What really matters and what I believe in is something else.
Energy. The whole Universe is enveloped in fields of energy and we are bound by it as well. This is the fact we have to be acutely aware of because we interact with the energy field around it through our thoughts and actions and changes it. When we interact with people, its our energies that are truly interacting but we never think about it that is why we may be passing on our negative vibrations to the energy of other people. This is how negativity spreads. I never understood the purpose of astrology and horoscope until I realized the importance of energy in our lives. Astrology, in reality, checks the energy fields of two people and tries to understand what happens when these energy fields interact closely. That is why some predictions talk about death to one of the partners or problems with the child born out of the union. When we are with friends and pets, our energies interact positively and create positive energy which creates the feel good factor because the positive energy stays with us for some time. Same is the case when we are stuck in a bad situation, when we quarrel with and abuse people and indulge in violence. Wrong influence of our thoughts and actions on our energy fields and their subsequent interactions with other energy fields lead to the creation of negative energy which propels us to make more mistakes. That is how a silly argument can turn quickly into a nasty brawl. Road rage is a prime example of this. A large amount of negative energy gets built up in no time that’s how situations go out of hand, people pick up guns and starts shooting at each other following heated arguments.
The influence of our actions on the energy around us is not limited to our personal lives. Our professional lives are equally or more stressful. I have observed in surprise and awe how we strive to create tense situations, get into arguments, put our ego in front of disagreements and make it personal, the list goes on. Try standing aside and watching the negative energy building up. Sometimes I have felt that I am getting paid for contributing towards creating and maintaining a negative work environment and for accepting to live with increasing negative energy. A jolly good person is not considered a good leader because corporate rules mandate that he/she should be sober, serious and without emotion. Phew….we are working with our fellow beings not animals or aliens. To start with, I believe we can create a lot of positive energy simply by asking team members to “work with us” rather the usual usage of “work for us” or “work under us”.
Life, in all it’s miserable worst, can still show us our way ahead. I was in my late teens when life brought me down with a debilitating back pain. For years, I lived in bitterness for having to live with this curse. Then exercises slowly started making me feel better. As years went by the truth dawned on me. I have to exercise every day now, not just for my back but I also have to make sure that my waistline does not increase as it will increase the stress on my back. Result? I have to watch what I eat so I quit meat, reduced fatty, oily and spicy food, I have sugar and salt in control, I go for walks and I do all required exercises to keep my body toned. I have to constantly monitor my BMI and make sure my weight is always in proportion to my height. Most people might find this a tough life to live, for me, living a healthy life has become an addiction. Even when I am out on trips, I make sure to wake up early enough to do my workouts. What I thought was a curse and a liability is turning out to be a blessing in disguise. Developing the ability to extract positive energy from negative situations is the best way to make ourselves mentally stronger.
Fortunately, the world is slowly moving into a higher state of consciousness and there is increasing awareness about our body, our planet and the Universe. We are starting to reject contemporary methods of treatment and returning to the age old natural remedies. For example, I have a potent combination of ginger-pepper-turmeric-lime juice in black tea to treat any stomach ailments including food poisoning and the results have always amazed me. More importantly, there is greater awareness of our inherent ability to heal ourselves naturally and to understand this, we have to first understand and accept the fact that the life we are leading is tampering with our health. But what I believe is the key to living a good life is to have a balanced state of mind and that is our tallest challenge.
I have first hand experience of what can happen when the flow of energy in our body is corrected. After 5 acupuncture sessions, I was feeling unbelievably energized. But it is not enough that we have positive energy within us. It is also equally important that the energy around us is also positive. Letting go is the best way to keep positive energy around us. When we think of letting go, that’s when we think of what we are holding back in our lives. True love for someone should only mean that the other person should always be happy no matter if that person is with us or not. We should let go off the anger and let it not affect our ego when we have disagreements at work. We should only have ambitions about what we can work and achieve and we should identify and let go of unrealistic desires. It is always safer to hear, see and feel more and speak less. Last but least of all, we should be strong enough to be who are and not who the society wants us to be. We may not end up having many friends and society may treat us as outcasts, but what we end up having ultimately with us is all we will need. All of these wont make us clones of Buddha, but will definitely make us wiser and give us greater control over own lives. Finally this one picture which I came across says it all. How I wish I had seen this a few years back. It may have helped me save a precious life.