My take on why women are from Venus……..
January 21, 2012 2 Comments
This is going to stir a few feathers. I can’t help but laugh whenever I hear women are from Venus. For me, this shows the deep rooted “no understanding” of women among men. I read an interesting article about a research that was taken up to find out what colors men and women identify the most. Men picked sky blue and ocean green and women chose red, pink and orange. The explanation that the research team gave was that, when we were living in caves, men used to go out to hunt, fish and find wood. What they observed the most was the sky for clear weather and at the water. Women used to pick fruits and make food. So what am I driving at?
Men had to go out and make decisions on which their lives depended. So men developed analytical skills which women never had to. Men love to answer in yes or no. This has grown to such levels that I am learning a consulting methodology wherein I have to analyze situations or problems by creating a “Question Tree” in which the answers to all the questions have to be “Yes” to find the solutions. Women never answer in yes or no because their thought processes are driven by emotions. Women always need time to “hang around” with their men. But men are used to giving their best to what they do outside their homes, be it hunting or be it a business meeting. So they don’t have the patience to “hang around” with their women. Come on folks, we evolved. It’s in our genes.
Women mature much faster than men. Maybe that’s why in India, men are made to marry women who are 6-7 years younger. Men start becoming socially and financially stable by the time they are 30 years old. That’s when they start seeing women beyond their physical needs. Women mature out to handle men by the time they are 23 years old. I know women will resent this, but ask yourselves. This is not about getting a woman used to a man, it is the other way around. A man is capable of fulfilling only 10% of his life by himself. For the 90%, he needs a woman.
I do not blame women for demanding equal rights as men and going out to explore the world. Because of the way men are, women have a deep rooted distrust about all men. This is all about “if you can, I too can”. All a woman needs is a sensible guy who is committed to her. It takes a lot of effort and time to convince a woman, but that’s what she expects from her man. Women have been driven to fulfill men’s different needs from time immemorial. In ancient times, girls from lower castes in India had to become “devdasis” to serve men’s physical needs so that upper class girls were safe from men’s prying eyes. How can men expect women to trust them after being persecuted and used to such levels for so long and which continues in different ways even now?
All of us are emotional and my take is that men developed analytical skills on top of their emotions. So it is upto them to come down to the emotional level rather than expect women to go up. It never happens that a man finds a woman, it’s the woman who always finds her man. So men, if you find your woman, don’t hesitate, stay with her and put your best efforts on her. Respect the fact that you have someone to go back to and that someone is waiting for you. The most important and the most wonderful thing we find in life is love and it’s amazing to love and be loved.